Clearing your STAGNATION STORIES

Overcoming Stagnation Stories

Welcome to Part 1 of The Unlocked Motivation! In this lesson, we’re diving deep into what I call “stagnation stories.” These are the unconscious narratives that play in our minds, holding us back from making the moves we say we want to make. We all experience these blocks at some point, but by identifying and understanding them, we can begin to clear the path to our goals.

Understanding Stagnation Stories

Stagnation stories often operate under the radar—they’re unconscious. That’s why this lesson focuses on the Moon, which in astrology represents our unconscious motivations. The Moon governs what makes us feel secure or insecure, and these feelings directly impact our motivation.

To illustrate, think of the Sun as your battery bank—it powers you up. The Moon, on the other hand, is like the cables that direct that energy to different parts of your life. If those cables are faulty, even if your battery is full, the energy won’t get to where it needs to go. In other words, your motivation will stall if your Moon sign isn’t aligned or if you’re not addressing the unconscious stories it represents.

Insecurity as the root of lack of motivation

When we feel unmotivated, it’s often because we’re insecure or fearful. We doubt ourselves and worry that we won’t be able to take care of ourselves. This triggers protective mechanisms that stop us from moving forward. For example, Cancer, which is ruled by the Moon, is known for reacting strongly and then retreating to care for itself. This is a perfect illustration of how insecurity can cause us to withdraw instead of advancing toward our goals.

Bringing the Unconscious to Light

Stagnation stories are the mental narratives we tell ourselves that fuel our insecurities. Many of us might say, “I feel overwhelmed,” “I don’t want to,” or “I’ll start next week.” But beneath these surface-level thoughts are deeper, unconscious stories that are sabotaging our motivation.

For instance, you might be thinking about launching a new product, but deep down, you’re worried about what will happen if someone asks for a refund and you can’t afford it, or if you get publicly criticized. These stories might not be at the forefront of your mind, but they’re running in the background, influencing your behavior.

The Power of Awareness

Once you start recognizing these stagnation stories, everything changes. By bringing these unconscious thoughts to light, you can interrupt the patterns and regain control over your motivation. When you feel insecure, the only way to move forward is by addressing that insecurity directly.

Your Moon Sign as a Guide

Your Moon sign reveals the patterns and stories that emerge when you’re off balance. It shows you what triggers your insecurities and how those triggers affect your motivation. By understanding your Moon sign, you can start to recognize these patterns sooner and take steps to address them.

Practical Application

The real power of these insights lies in their application. It’s one thing to learn about your stagnation stories, but it’s another to actively work on interrupting them. That’s why it’s crucial to engage with your workbook throughout this course. Write down your stories, put them in your own words, and revisit them whenever you’re starting something new—whether it’s launching a project, creating content, or engaging with clients.

Setting “smoke alarms” for your stagnation stories is a great way to stay on track. These are little alerts that remind you when you’re about to fall into old patterns so that you can choose a different response. It’s not just about having cool information—it’s about using that information to create real change in your life.

The Path to Embodied Wisdom

Embodied wisdom means taking what you’ve learned and applying it to your life. It’s not enough to just understand your stagnation stories; you need to change your responses to them. This is where the magic happens—when you start recognizing these stories in real-time and choosing new, empowering thoughts instead.

One effective practice is to take three to five minutes and write down all the negative thoughts you’re having. Then, flip them into positives. For example, if you’re worried that no one will buy your offer, write down, “What if everyone loves it? What if this is exactly what my audience has been waiting for?”

Next Steps

Now it’s time to take action. Read the section related to your Moon sign and complete the stagnation stories exercise in your workbook. Let me know that you’re here, that you’re doing the work, and that you’re committed to staying motivated. This course is designed to be quick, but the impact it can have is profound if you fully engage with it.

Clarity as a source of Motivation 

One of the things that really supports motivation is having a clear plan and feeling secure in what you’re doing. This is where The Chosen Path comes in. In that course, we go much deeper into creating a solid foundation for your business using your birth chart.

We cover everything from your brand, your ideal client, your money blocks, and content creation, to launching and selling—all based on your astrological chart. The Chosen Path provides you with the tools and knowledge to build a business that feels aligned and authentic, ensuring that you stay motivated and on track.

The insights from The Chosen Path help you feel more secure because you’ll know exactly who you’re talking to, what you’re offering, and how to structure your business in a way that supports your unique energy. This level of clarity is a game-changer for your motivation because it removes the guesswork and allows you to confidently move forward.

So, if the topics we’re covering here excite you and you want to go even deeper, The Chosen Path is the next step. 

You’re the type to get fired up about new projects, brimming with excitement and ready to charge ahead. But then, as soon as it’s time to roll up your sleeves and get to work, something shifts. It’s not that you’ve lost interest—it’s more like this sudden fear creeps in, whispering, “What if this doesn’t go as planned?” or “What if I’m not the best at this right away?” The idea of failure, or even just not being immediately amazing at something, can stop you in your tracks. You’re all about starting strong, but when the reality hits that it might take time, patience, and persistence, that initial spark can fizzle out. You might find yourself procrastinating, telling yourself you’ll get to it next week when you feel more ready, but that week never seems to come.

You thrive on action and competition, so why not turn your projects into a game where you’re constantly winning? Set small, achievable goals, and reward yourself every time you hit one. Whether it’s treating yourself to something nice or simply taking a victory lap in your mind, let those wins fuel your momentum. Think of each step as a challenge to conquer, and keep your eye on the prize. Remind yourself, “I am unstoppable, and every win propels me forward.” This way, you keep that fiery energy alive, transforming your journey into a series of exciting victories.

Mental Stories to Set Smoke Alarms For:

• “What if this doesn’t go as planned?”
• “What if I’m not the best at this right away?”
• “I’ll start next week when I feel more ready.”

Flip Those Stories:

• Positive Affirmations:
• “I trust the process, even when the path isn’t clear.”“It’s okay to learn as I go—I don’t need to be perfect right away.”“I am ready now, and every step I take gets me closer to my goal.”

Questions to Consider:

• What specific fears come up for you when you think about starting something new?
• Where else in your life do you see this pattern of initial excitement followed by hesitation?
• How often do you delay action because you feel you need to be “ready” first? What does "ready" look like for you?

You’re all about comfort and stability, so when a new project comes up, your first thought might be, “How will this affect my routine?” Even if the idea excites you, the thought of disrupting your usual, comfortable flow can make you hesitate. There’s a part of you that deeply resists change, especially if it feels like it could bring any kind of instability, whether that’s financial, emotional, or physical. You might find yourself saying, “I’ll start this when I feel more secure,” but that sense of security can be elusive. The truth is, you don’t want to dive into something new because it threatens to pull you out of your comfort zone, and that’s a scary place for you to be.

Comfort and stability are your anchors, so create a “comfort box” for yourself—a physical or mental space that brings you peace whenever the going gets tough. Fill it with items or activities that make you feel secure, whether it’s your favorite tea, a cozy blanket, or a playlist that soothes your soul. Also, establish small rituals that ground you, like a morning routine that sets a stable tone for your day. Tell yourself, “I build my future on a foundation of comfort and stability.” This will allow you to embrace new opportunities while staying rooted in your own sense of security.

Mental Stories to Set Smoke Alarms For:

• “How will this affect my routine?”

• “I’ll start this when I feel more secure.”

• “This is too risky—it could disrupt my stability.”

Flip Those Stories:

• Positive Affirmations:“I can adapt to change while staying grounded in what makes me feel secure.”“Every step outside my comfort zone brings new opportunities for growth.”“I am secure within myself, no matter the external circumstances.”

Questions to Consider:

• What aspects of change do you find most unsettling? Is it financial, emotional, or something else?

• How often do you prioritize comfort over growth? Can you think of a time when stepping out of your comfort zone led to positive results?

• What stories do you tell yourself about security and stability? How might these stories be holding you back?

Your mind is constantly buzzing with ideas, and you love the thrill of starting something new. But once that initial excitement wears off, you might find yourself losing interest, thinking, “There’s something else I could be doing.” The problem isn’t that you don’t want to do the work—it’s that you get bored easily. When the project starts to feel repetitive or mundane, your mind starts wandering to the next shiny object. You tell yourself, “I’ll get back to this later, after I explore this new idea,” but then you never do. It’s like your curiosity is both a blessing and a curse—it leads you to new ideas but also pulls you away from finishing them.

Your curiosity keeps you moving, so when you start to feel bored, weave new, exciting elements into your current projects. If you’re learning something new, integrate it into what you’re already doing—like adding a fresh perspective to an ongoing task. This way, you satisfy your need for novelty without abandoning your original goals. Tell yourself, “I infuse my work with new energy, making it vibrant and dynamic.” By continually refreshing your projects, you keep your mind engaged and your progress steady.

Mental Stories to Set Smoke Alarms For:

• “There’s something else I could be doing.”

• “This is boring—I need something new.”

• “I’ll come back to this later.”

Flip Those Stories:

• Positive Affirmations:“I can find new inspiration within what I’m already doing.”“Completing this will open the door to even more exciting possibilities.”“I focus on finishing what I start, knowing that each step builds momentum.”

Questions to Consider:

• What patterns do you notice in your life where you start strong but then lose interest?

• How does boredom influence your decision-making? What do you usually do when you start to feel bored?

• Are there projects or goals in your life that you’ve abandoned because something else caught your attention? What made you leave them behind?

You’re deeply intuitive and emotionally connected to your work, which can be both a strength and a challenge. When you’re excited about something, you dive in with all your heart. But as soon as it starts to feel overwhelming, your instinct might be to retreat. It’s like there’s a voice inside saying, “This is too much; I need to protect myself.” You might start to worry about how this project will affect your emotional well-being, or whether you’re truly ready to handle it. The fear of getting hurt, disappointed, or emotionally drained can make you pull back, convincing yourself that you’ll tackle it when you feel more emotionally stable. But that perfect emotional state never seems to come, and the work stays undone.

You need emotional balance to thrive, so it’s important to give yourself regular breaks to retreat and recharge. Create a routine where you consciously take time off, whether it’s a quiet evening with a good book, a walk in nature, or simply time alone to reconnect with your feelings. Also, identify what tasks you can delegate or put on hold, so you don’t feel overwhelmed. Remind yourself, “I honor my need for rest and renewal, knowing that it strengthens my spirit.” By managing your energy wisely, you’ll be able to push through challenges while maintaining your emotional well-being.

Mental Stories to Set Smoke Alarms For:

• “This is too much; I need to protect myself.”

• “What if I get emotionally drained?”

• “I’m not ready to handle this yet.”

Flip Those Stories:

• Positive Affirmations:

• “I can handle challenges and still take care of myself.”“I trust my ability to navigate emotional ups and downs with grace.”“I am ready now, and each step forward strengthens my resilience.”

Questions to Consider:

• What specific fears arise when a project starts to feel overwhelming? Do they relate to past experiences?

• Where else in your life do you find yourself retreating when things get emotionally challenging?

• How do you prioritize your emotional well-being when balancing work and personal goals?

You love the spotlight and the idea of creating something that reflects your true self, but when it’s time to actually do the work, doubts can creep in. You might find yourself thinking, “What if this isn’t good enough?” or “What if people don’t love this as much as I do?” The fear of not living up to your own high expectations, or of being judged, can be paralyzing. It’s like there’s a part of you that worries about putting yourself out there, only to find out that you’re not as brilliant as you hoped. This fear of imperfection can make you delay starting, telling yourself, “I’ll work on it when I feel more confident,” but that confidence doesn’t always come when you need it.

Your self-confidence is your superpower, so it’s essential to see yourself as someone who can achieve anything. Your identity as someone who can CREATE what your vision is, is essential to your success. Start by visualizing yourself as the person you want to become—someone who is successful, admired, and fully in control. Integrate this vision into your daily life by affirming, “I am capable, and my actions bring my dreams to life.” Surround yourself with reminders of your past successes, and let them reinforce your belief in your abilities. By consistently seeing yourself as a powerful creator, you’ll naturally align your actions with that belief.

Mental Stories to Set Smoke Alarms For:

• “What if this isn’t good enough?”

• “What if people don’t love this as much as I do?”

• “I’ll work on it when I feel more confident.”

Flip Those Stories:

• Positive Affirmations:“My work is a reflection of my unique brilliance.”“I trust that those who see my work will appreciate it as much as I do.”“Confidence grows with action—I move forward boldly.”

Questions to Consider:

• How do you react when you start to doubt your own abilities? What triggers these doubts?

• Where in your life do you find yourself hesitating to take action because of a fear of judgment or failure?

• What stories do you tell yourself about perfection and success? How do these stories impact your willingness to take risks?

You’re driven by a desire to do things right, to make sure every detail is perfect. But that same desire can also make you hesitant to even begin. You might think, “I’m not ready yet; I need to plan this out more,” or “What if it’s not perfect?” The fear of making mistakes or not meeting your own high standards can be crippling. You might find yourself endlessly preparing, tweaking, and revising your plans without ever actually taking action. It’s like you’re stuck in this loop of perfectionism, where the work never feels ready to be put out into the world. The result? You keep pushing it off, convincing yourself that you’ll get to it once everything is just right—but “just right” never seems to arrive.

Your strength lies in service, so shift your focus from perfection to helping others. Instead of getting caught up in the details, think about how your work can genuinely benefit someone. Remind yourself, “I create value by serving others, and my work doesn’t have to be perfect to make a difference.” Establish a feedback loop—reach out for input and use it to refine your efforts. Seeing how your work impacts others will keep you motivated and remind you that it’s the service, not the perfection, that truly matters.

Mental Stories to Set Smoke Alarms For:

• “I’m not ready yet; I need to plan this out more.”

• “What if it’s not perfect?”

• “I’ll start when everything is just right.”

Flip Those Stories:

• Positive Affirmations:“Taking action now brings me closer to my goals, even if it’s not perfect.”“My work serves others, and its impact is more important than perfection.”“I grow and improve with each step I take.”

Questions to Consider:

• What does “perfect” look like to you? How does this ideal influence your actions?

• In what areas of your life do you notice yourself endlessly preparing or planning without taking action?

• How do you feel about making mistakes? What would happen if you allowed yourself to take imperfect action?

You’re a natural at seeing all sides of a situation, which makes you great at planning and strategizing. But when it comes time to act, you might find yourself paralyzed by indecision. You might think, “What if this isn’t the best approach?” or “What if this upsets the balance I’ve worked so hard to create?” The fear of making the wrong choice, or of disrupting the harmony around you, can make you hesitate. You might spend so much time weighing options and considering other people’s needs that you never actually make a move. It’s easy to convince yourself that you’ll take action once you’re sure it’s the right choice, but that certainty is hard to come by, and the project stalls.

Balance is key for you, especially when indecision strikes. Create a space, both physically and mentally, where you can hear your own thoughts without outside influences. This might mean spending time alone in nature, meditating, or practicing energy work to clear your mind of others’ opinions. Tell yourself, “I find clarity within, and I trust my inner balance to guide me.” By reconnecting with your own energy, you’ll be able to make decisions that truly reflect your values and desires.

Mental Stories to Set Smoke Alarms For:

• “What if this isn’t the best approach?”

• “What if this upsets the balance I’ve worked so hard to create?”

• “I need to be sure before I take action.”

Flip Those Stories:

• Positive Affirmations:“I trust my ability to make the right decision, even when it’s not perfect.”“Taking action is better than remaining stuck in indecision.”“I create balance by moving forward with clarity and confidence.”

Questions to Consider:

• How often do you find yourself stuck in indecision? What thoughts typically run through your mind in these moments?

• Where in your life do you notice yourself prioritizing others’ needs or the desire for harmony over your own goals?

• What fears come up for you when you think about making the wrong choice? How do these fears influence your actions?

You’re drawn to intensity and transformation, but that same depth can also make you hesitant to take action. There’s a part of you that might think, “If I dive into this, what shadows or heavy energy will I uncover?” or “What if this changes me in ways I’m not ready for?” The fear of losing control, or of facing something within yourself that you’re not prepared to deal with, can be overwhelming. You might find yourself procrastinating, not because you don’t care, but because you’re afraid of what this work will demand of you—emotionally, psychologically, or even spiritually. You tell yourself you’ll start when you’re ready to face those demons, but that readiness is elusive.

Confronting your shadows is crucial for you to move forward. Take time to explore what you’re really afraid of—whether it’s failure, vulnerability, or something deeper. Bring those fears into the light, either through journaling, therapy, or deep conversations with someone you trust. Remind yourself, “I transform my fears into power, and I face my shadows with courage.” By addressing these hidden fears, you’ll release the emotional load that holds you back and clear the path for progress. Also, consider the emotional and energetic labor in your work—make sure it’s accounted for in your profit margin, because your emotional energy is a valuable resource.

Mental Stories to Set Smoke Alarms For:

• “If I dive into this, what shadows will I uncover?”

• “What if this changes me in ways I’m not ready for?”

• “I’ll start when I’m ready to face these challenges.”

Flip Those Stories:

• Positive Affirmations:“I am strong enough to face whatever comes up.”“Every challenge I face helps me grow into a more powerful version of myself.”“I trust myself to handle the emotional depth of this work.”

Questions to Consider:

• What specific fears or anxieties come up when you think about diving deep into a project?

• Where in your life do you avoid taking action because you fear what you might uncover about yourself?

• How do you feel about the idea of losing control? How might this fear be affecting your willingness to move forward?

You thrive on inspiration and the excitement of new possibilities, but as soon as the work starts to feel like a commitment, you might find yourself pulling back. There’s a voice in your head saying, “I don’t want to be tied down,” or “This isn’t as fun as I thought it would be.” The moment something starts to feel routine or restrictive, you start looking for the exit. It’s not that you don’t care—it’s that you fear losing your freedom and spontaneity. You might tell yourself you’ll come back to it later, after you’ve had some fun or explored a new idea, but that later keeps getting pushed back as you chase the next adventure.

Protect your vision fiercely. Surround yourself with people who support your dreams and avoid those who bring negativity or doubt. The mantra, “If they haven’t been where I’m going, I don’t take advice from them,” will help you stay focused. Anchor your vision by writing it down, creating a vision board, or regularly reminding yourself of your goals. Tell yourself, “I stay true to my path, and I trust my journey.” By keeping your focus sharp, you won’t lose sight of where you’re headed, even when the road gets challenging.

Mental Stories to Set Smoke Alarms For:

• “I don’t want to be tied down.”

• “This isn’t as fun as I thought it would be.”

• “I’ll come back to this later.”

Flip Those Stories:

• Positive Affirmations:“Commitment to my goals allows me the freedom to explore new possibilities.”“I can find joy in the journey, even when it requires persistence.”“I focus on the long-term vision, knowing it will bring fulfillment.”

Questions to Consider:

• How do you react when a project starts to feel like a commitment? What emotions come up?

• In what areas of your life do you notice a pattern of avoiding routine or anything that feels restrictive?

• How do you balance your need for freedom with the need to follow through on your goals? What stories do you tell yourself about commitment?

You’re all about achieving your goals and building something lasting, but that same drive can also be your biggest obstacle. You might think, “This needs to be done perfectly, or it’s not worth doing at all,” or “I need to be absolutely sure this will succeed before I start.” The fear of failure, or of not living up to your own high standards, can make you hesitate to take the first step. You might find yourself endlessly planning and preparing, convincing yourself that you’ll act when everything is perfectly in place. But the truth is, perfection is an illusion, and the work remains undone because you’re too focused on getting it exactly right.

Don’t get so caught up in others’ expectations that you forget your own desires. Make sure you’re pursuing goals that truly matter to you, not just what you think others want to see. Bring fun into your journey—celebrate the small wins, and remind yourself why you’re climbing this mountain in the first place. Tell yourself, “I achieve my goals for me, and I enjoy the journey as much as the destination.” This perspective will keep you motivated and ensure that your hard work is truly fulfilling.

Mental Stories to Set Smoke Alarms For:

• “This needs to be done perfectly, or it’s not worth doing at all.”

• “I need to be sure this will succeed before I start.”

• “I’ll act when everything is perfectly in place.”

Flip Those Stories:

• Positive Affirmations:“Progress is more important than perfection.”“I trust that each step forward will lead to success, even if the path isn’t clear.”“I enjoy the journey as much as the destination, knowing each step is valuable.”

Questions to Consider:

• What specific standards or expectations do you hold yourself to when starting a new project?

• Where in your life do you notice yourself delaying action because of a fear of failure or imperfection?

• How do you feel about taking risks? What would happen if you allowed yourself to take action before everything is perfectly in place?

You’re driven by a desire to innovate and do things your own way, but that same desire can also make you resistant to following through. You might think, “What if this isn’t as groundbreaking as I hoped?” or “What if no one understands what I’m trying to do?” The fear of being misunderstood, or of not living up to your own unique vision, can be paralyzing. You might start to doubt whether it’s worth the effort if it means compromising your ideals or fitting into a mold. This can lead to procrastination, as you wait for the perfect moment or the perfect idea to strike—one that feels completely authentic to you.

Authenticity is everything for you, so stop trying to fit into molds that don’t suit you. Trust your unique vision and be ruthlessly committed to it, even if it means going against the grain. Remind yourself daily, “I create from a place of truth, and my authenticity leads to success.” When you do things your own way, you’ll find that everything else falls into place naturally. Let your creativity flow freely, and know that staying true to yourself is the best path to success.

Mental Stories to Set Smoke Alarms For:

• “What if this isn’t as groundbreaking as I hoped?”

• “What if no one understands what I’m trying to do?”

• “I need to wait for the perfect moment or idea.”

Flip Those Stories:

• Positive Affirmations:“My unique perspective is valuable, even if it’s not understood by everyone.”“I trust that my authenticity will lead to success in ways I can’t yet see.”“I take action now, knowing that the perfect moment is the one I create.”

Questions to Consider:

• What fears come up for you when you think about others not understanding or appreciating your work?

• Where in your life do you notice yourself resisting action because of a need to stay true to your vision or ideals?

• How do you feel about the idea of compromising? What would happen if you allowed yourself to take action, even if it’s not perfectly aligned with your ideals?

You’re deeply connected to the emotional and spiritual aspects of life, but that can sometimes make the practical side of things feel overwhelming. You might think, “I don’t have the energy to deal with this right now,” or “This feels too heavy for me to handle.” The fear of getting lost in the details, or of being drained by the demands of the material world, can make you retreat into your inner world. You might find yourself putting off tasks, telling yourself that you’ll get to them when you’re feeling more inspired or grounded. But without a clear sense of direction, that inspiration can be hard to find, and the work stays on the back burner.

Your sensitive nature needs nurturing, so create an environment that makes you feel safe and present. Surround yourself with sensory pleasures—whether it’s music, scents, or comfortable spaces—that ground you in the moment. Remind yourself, “I am safe here and now, and I embrace the present moment.” By making your surroundings feel right, you’ll reduce the urge to escape and increase your ability to stay focused on your goals. This way, your sensitivity becomes a strength that supports your progress rather than a reason to withdraw.

Mental Stories to Set Smoke Alarms For:

• “I don’t have the energy to deal with this right now.”

• “This feels too heavy for me to handle.”

• “I’ll get to this when I’m feeling more inspired.”

Flip Those Stories:

• Positive Affirmations:“I have the energy I need to handle this, one step at a time.”“I am capable of managing the details, and I trust myself to handle them.”“Inspiration grows with action—I start now, and the path will become clear.”

Questions to Consider:

• What specific aspects of a project or task feel overwhelming to you? How do these feelings affect your willingness to take action?

• Where in your life do you notice a pattern of retreating into your inner world when faced with practical or material challenges?

• How do you balance your emotional and spiritual needs with the demands of the material world? What stories do you tell yourself about managing these two aspects of life?